2 days Workshop-training on “Be Professional You” Conducted’ on 3rd and 4th February 2019

Along with Mental Health and Psychology, Youth Leadership has always been a topic of our work interest. We have developed a curriculum including skills which can aid any youth in their professional development. We had 2 days extensive activity based session focusing to develop Presentation Skills, Communication and Expression Skills, Blogging Skills and so on. We had 13 participants in total and 4 sessions facilitators facilitated the sessions. We would like to thank Suraj Raj Pandey for the session of ‘Leadership 101’ and Stela Mainali for the session ‘Being a Public Speaker’.


PNN’s executive director, kripa Sigdel, and President, Sujan Shretha, were responsible for designing and conducting the session.
At the end, 2 day workshop-training on ‘Be Professional You’ ended with the participants positive feedback which makes us believe in the enhancement of better professional skill and youth network among them.

If you are looking for these kind of sessions at your school, college or youth group, you can reach out to us at 9860937293 or via info@psychbigyaan.com. We are looking forward to visit and conduct the sessions.

Multiple-Stories Matter!

When you make an image, an idea, a perception or a conclusion about someone or something, how often that is overruled by a Single Story? And If I say ‘Single story could be merely an outlet of your single perception, single experience with someone or something or a single story you have heard and seen about it’, will you believe me?

Most of the time, before my first lecture in any class, I am regarded as a student myself and the journey of my identity as a teacher only begins once I start lecturing or start my introduction as a lecturer. Why do you think that happens in most of my first classes?  May be because we are overwhelmed with the single story about the perception of teacher wrapped in Kurtis or Sari or a middle aged woman with books in hand and glasses on !!

A friend of mine from Germany calls Nepali Food as ‘Daal-Bhaat’ instead Daal-Bhaat as one of the Nepali Food. Why do you do think that happened? May be because she stayed in a place where Daal-bhaat has been only served and she didn’t explore enough cuisines around !!

We hear a story of a person from another person, make a perception about him or her with the story told to us and treat them accordingly. Does it sound familiar? Why do you think it happens to you? May be because we don’t like to keep ourselves in other’s feet to expand our horizon to multiple stories or may be we made up our mind about someone or something with a single experience we have!!

If you said Yes to my most of the ‘question marks’ above, then don’t you think you are under the danger of single story?

Now the question is how to get rid of the influence of the SINGLE STORY?

We, whoever is working in the social field, strongly advocate the need of ‘NON JUDGEMENTAL ATTITUDE’; but we almost forget that our brain is smarter and faster than we think. When is the last time you decide anything or thought any thought without being judgemental or influenced? When is the last time your brain automatically looked at multiple stories to conclude about something?

I know it’s absolutely difficult; it’s difficult to stop brain from being auto-pilot of its thought, difficult to pass judgement or stop reaction in situations, difficult to stop making impression of someone or something instantly?

But what if we have multiple stories already? Then, is it really impossible?

Of course NOT!

Here are few things we can do to help us ourselves to get rid being Judgemental; so next time if you think you will get trapped in being influenced by single story, mind these ones:

  • Learn about the Multiple Stories:

Learn more about the stories, people, places, beliefs, everything. Just have multiple stories about one single thing. Learn from Books, talk to people, visit to new places but just don’t make a perspective on the basis of single story you make. Let Brain to see the things from the multiple angles. So, next time when someone referred Africa as a country, your brain instantly says: No, it is a continent.
(You had Africa in your mind as a country, right? I told ya, Brain runs on autopilot and this autopilot was fuelled by the single story fed to us)

 

  • Listen More:

Have you heard the phrase-Reading in between the lines? Do it, literally!

We trust explicit information and it’s good to do so, most of the times. But there are also multiple sides of the same story, try to find what it implies then merely believing in the singularity of the explicit meaning.

So that next time when someone says something and you hold grudges toward that being, you read the lines in between the expressions, their situations and multiple factors before you jump into the conclusion of that being.

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  • Be Non-judgmentally Judgemental:

Non-Judgmentally Judgemental, Interesting? I know, Right?

I never understood this concept when referred by one of my friend, Sujan, until recently when I am trying to explore more on having Multiple stories.
As we cannot stop our brain to stop working in its automatic mode instead what we can do is to feed it with multiple stories, perspectives, information, experiences, interactions so that we start giving benefit of doubt to people around, start accepting them the way they are automatically. If we cannot help ourselves being non-judgemental, at least we can accept the fact of ourselves being judgemental and accept the way we are and help our brain with the power of MULTIPLE STORIES.

(Got the idea? Confused?! Okay, we will discuss about it sometime again)

I know its Easier said than Done. I have had my own share of struggle to stop holding grudges and feeling bad about people and situations. I had my own share of instances where many decisions and explanations were done on the basis of single story, I still do that sometimes. But now, when I have known the power of PERSPECTIVES and MULTIPLE STORIES, it’s much easier for me to be non-judgemental and not get trapped in between the single story to come to the conclusion.

Ending with one of the very relevant story of my life:

I am asked, multiple times: Why are you so nice to people? How can you be so nice to everyone? How can you be so comfortable to be around to the person whom you exactly don’t like in person? Do you fake it or you are serious about being good to everyone?  My answer used to be, most of the time: After all, it’s just a life to live and why to not be nice to everyone.

 

But the UNTOLD answer and my Understated reason (which I share to very few ones) is: I do so, because of my strongest belief in the MULTIPLE Stories; multiple stories of the individuals, situation, places and their actions and belief systems. How can you judge a person with a single story you have of them with a single experience or single information?

Trust me, the time you start stopping to get stuck in SINGLE STORY and believing and exploring the MULTIPLE STORIES, you will be a different person.
Not just in your relationship, but in the information and perspective you build like in the video I have shared at the end.

Perspectives Matter!

Multiple Diverse Stories Matters!

P.S

I wanted to write something related to ‘Perspectives’ for sometime and my exposure to this video during one of the workshop I attended regarding ‘Narrative Approach’ encouraged me to pen down this article.

Link:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D9Ihs241zeg&t=20s

Young People and Mental Health in Changing World

World Mental Health Day 2018

Adolescence is a crucial phase of a life in which a child transitions into an adult. It is a tumultuous period of rapid changes, uncertainty, identity formation, restlessness and curiosity. At the same time it is a very exciting time of self explorations, socialisation and adventures etc. The growing demands of modern times, changing values and expectations, shifting relationships, the shrinking space to explore oneself and rapid physical and mental changes put adolescents in the state of perplexity and may not be able to comprehend the changes properly. This may lead to the experience of stress from mild to severe. Seeking out avenues to channel out their frustrations and stress, they can develop unhealthy coping of stress which can lead to risky behaviours such as the use of drugs, alcohol, aggression, apathy towards others and even to suicide as well. The stress for some of them becomes too much to handle due to which they might develop mental health problems. In this
context, World Health Organization is celebrating this year’s World Mental Health Day on October 10, with the theme ‘Young People and Mental Health in a Changing World’.

Adolescent’s mental health status in Global Scenario

According to World Health Organization , 1 in 6 people are aged 10-19 years whereas mental health conditions account for 16% of the global burden of disease and injury in people aged 10-19 years. Depression is regarded as one of the leading causes of illness and disability among adolescents and suicide is said to be the third leading causes of death in 15-19 years olds globally. Half of all mental health conditions start by 14 years of age and three quarters by mid-20s but most cases are undetected or untreated due to stigma and lack of awareness in such issues. The consequences of not addressing adolescent mental health conditions extend to adulthood, impairing both physical and mental health and limiting opportunities to lead lives in adulthood with good well- being and full potentiality.

Scenario in Nepal

According to the report of Central Bureau of Statistics (2014), the population of adolescents make about a quarter of total population which stands at about 6.4 million. There are several issues that concern Nepali adolescents such as child marriage, child labour, migration, maternal mortality rate, sexual exploitation, trafficking, HIV AIDS , mental health etc . Adolescents in Nepal have huge risks of developing mental illness but the facilities of the treatment haven’t been focused on adolescents mental health solely. WHO ( 2006) reported that among 18 outpatient mental health facilities available in the country none of the health facilities are meant for children and adolescents only. But , in 2015, Kanti Children’s Hospital has opened a child and adolescent mental health outpatient ward to provide psychiatric treatment and psycho social counselling to children under 18 years. The rate of incidence of suicide among adolescents is alarmingly increasing every year. It has been found that suicide rate among adolescents jumped from 5% in 2005 AD to 15.7% in 2009 AD (Mishra, Shrestha, Poudyal, & Mishra, 2013) .

Dealing with Adolescent’s Issues

Having a mental health issue in the early age of life is not choice or conscious decision, it can be due to environmental or biological reasons. Though we might not control the happening of the mental health condition to a young people but we for sure can prevent its happening or at least deal with the issue in such a way that every mentally ill can live their life with dignity. Firstly and majorly, starting with conversation on such issues will be a help while dealing with adolescent’s mental issues, it will not only help to bring awareness but help adolescent to acknowledge and speak up in the initial phase will help in early detection and treatment. Likewise, making educational institutions, family and community aware and empower to deal with such issues will be another way to help young people live their with full potentially and productivity in this changing world.

References:

Central Bureau of Statistics . (2014). Population monograph of Nepal, Volume II.

Mishra, N., Shrestha, D., Poudyal, R., & Mishra, P. (2013). Retrospective Study of Suicide Among Children and Young Adults. J. Nepal Paediatr. Soc, 33(2), 110–116.

WHO. (2006). WHO-AIMS report on mental health system in Nepal. Kathmandu,Nepal. Retrieved from http://www.who.int/mental_health/evidence/nepal_who_aims_report.pdf

(The article was featured in Republica- https://myrepublica.nagariknetwork.com/news/young-people-and-mental-health-in-changing-world/ )

Why Can’t we have Luxury to say ‘I am not Fine’?

”Why can’t we have the luxury of saying – ‘I am not fine’ when we actually feel so: not fine and emotionally down?”

This question is haunting me for a week and it all started when I asked a friend of mine, who is an expert in Psychology:  How are you feeling? He clearly seemed to be feeling down and mentally unhealthy. But his – simple reply was ‘All good, I am fine’. I am sure he might not want to share it but my question is: Would he say the same if he had a headache or fever or fractured hand? I am sure, no!

When WHO has defined Health as ‘a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity’; why cannot an individual has a luxury of saying ‘I am not feeling fine’ when they are in a low mood or feeling not good mentally?

 

No matter how much we try to advocate the change in awareness in mental well-being and how much we talk about our Emotional and Mental Health, unless we be true to our mental wellbeing and emphasize as it exactly like of Physical Health, it’s never going to be any different.

May be we are focusing so much on being strong and portrayal of Heroic figure or controlling our sadness, we force ourself not to speak up about it. May be we are teaching our kids to look stronger and not show our failures. So next time, if you are feeding your kid with these: make sure to remember: Health is the combination of Physical, Mental and Social-wellbeing and to fully function, you got to feel healthy in every ways.

Here are the few statements I tend to hear elders preaching or few songs expressing which I have reservation on. Watch it out, if you are doing the same next time:

  • If you are teaching your daughter – ‘Queen will always turn pain into Power’ or ‘Big girls don’t cry’. Stop right there, right then and there.                                                                                                                                                                                                                      If you feel happy or pleasure or excited or any other pleasant emotion, why cannot you feel suffocated or cry? Negative emotion is just another emotion. Tell them to Let it go, speak it out exactly like what you do with your positive ones.

  • ‘Sometimes all you can do is Chin up, Hold your tears and Move on’.
    But I ask you-Why?

Why should you ever do that if you feel like not doing so? Why can’t you have luxury to feel down and cry it hard if you wish to? Is there any crime in not feeling well, it’s your life and your have every right to feel anything you feel like. Let people know about it and seek help!

  • ‘All’s well that Ends Well (Or, In Hindi: Anta valaa toh sab valla)’.                                                                                                                                                                                                                Is it okay to suffer in the journey just with the hope of good end?
  • ‘Cowards Cry (Or, In Nepali: marda rudaina)’.

If you are saying so. Seriously?

Trust me, It’s okay to feel. You aren’t weak. Don’t let anyone tell you different.

  • ‘Its easiest to Pretend that you don’t care rather than to admit that it’s killing you’.

    I don’t think so. Pretending is never easy especially the thing you feel. Like John Lennon said my friend ‘One thing you cannot just hide is when you’are crippled inside’.  Also pretending does more harm to yourself.

Dear friend, the one-liners explaining how should you behave in Public or how should you control your emotions will remain in use in every language, in every culture and in every forms. We are brought up in the culture where expressing sadness or negative emotion is the sign of being coward or lazy or the sign of trying to get away from the reality. But psychological and emotion focused researches explains that being able to feel our feelings actually makes us stronger and more resilient. When we allow ourselves to fully experience our feelings, it actually help us sort out what we really want and think. Feeling helps outlef in a safe and healthy and we are actually less likely to act on them in destructive manner.

You can trust on psychological facts and figures that, it’s possible to feel hurt without acting victimized and feel anger without being destructive; it’s possible to feel fear without hiding and feel heartbreak without breaking down.

So when next time you are verbally feeding your kid or explaining your friend on how to behave or stop the sad feeling, think back and ask yourself: Would you do the same if he has bodily pain, would you still ask him to suppress the pain and tell him to be stronger?

I understand sharing can make one feel worse, but how can you say that without trying?. I am sure sharing your pain, insecurities, fear can be daunting sometimes; and here i am not saying it should be shared to every next person you see; but to the ones whom you trust and most importantly atleast to the counselor if you really want to be helped.

Since quoting John Lennon once again: ‘One thing you cannot just hide is – when you’are crippled inside’; so why try it when it’s going to do more harm then benefit, my friend!
Let it out!

 

 

Psychbigyaan Podcast : Interview With Jenny Joyce

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In this podcast we interviewed Jenny Joyce, newly graduated and soon to be qualified occupational therapist from London who was in Nepal for applying her knowledge in mental health service in Amrita Foundation. We interviewed her on the occasion of World Occupation Therapy Day, 2017 to enlight us with the concept of OT and its significance in mental health in the context of Nepal. Here is the link to the interview: