Take a minute change a life is the theme of world suicide prevention day 2017.This highlights the importance of speaking up, taking the time and listening. Today 10 September 2017 is the 15th world suicide prevention day and is designed as a worldwide commitment to preventing suicides to the public’s attention and to help society do what it can to prevent suicides now and in the future.

Nearly 3000 people on average commit suicide daily according to world health organization .Every year about one million people die by suicide and up to 25 times as many make a suicide attempts .Behind these statistics are the individual stories of those who have for many different reasons ,questioned the value of their lives. More people die from suicide than from murder and war; It is the 13th leading cause of death worldwide. Each one of the individuals is part of a community. So communities have an important role to play in supporting those who are vulnerable.

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Let’s talk about some warning signs of anyone having suicidal thoughts: feeling helpless, self-loathing, mood swings, hopelessness, talking about wanting to die or to kill oneself, talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain, sleeping too little or much, withdrawing or feeling isolated, decreased social contact, saying goodbyes to love ones, severe anxiety or agitation, talking about being a burden to others, sudden changes in personality, paranoia, increasing drugs and alcohol usage etc. A high proportion of suicide cases suffered from mental illness before committing suicide. It is said that more than 90% of people who die by suicide have a diagnosable illness often clinical depression, and often in combination with anxiety or substance use disorder and other treatable mental disorder. But it doesn’t need to be serious mental issues always, sometimes lack of somebody listening to us may be the reason behind choice-suicide. Sometimes unable to cope the overwhelming life situation may lead to suicidal thoughts.

There is so much more to experience and suicide is too permanent solution to temporary problem .PLEASE SEEK HELP”. Why not to tell your family, friend, doctor, tell anyone but do not stay SILENT” and end up choosing the worst option : SUICIDE .

Suicide is not a solution of problem .Suicide is the worst option of all. Each breathe we take is important so why not to live your life to the fullest rather than ruining it by ending own precious life. Thoughts of suicide are not your fault. They are often a product of some unbalance in your system mentally or physically or both. Suicide is the “END GAME” so “NEVER TRY TO PLAY IT”.

In Tribute To YamaBuddha


“म फुट्छु तर झुक्दिन| दिन रात लड्छु सुत्दिन |”

The rough translation of these phrases tells about the wishes of a determined person who asserts that he would rather love to be broken than to give up. He goes on telling that he would fight the battle whole day and night but will never surrender.

These extracts are the part of a famous rap song that was brought to the Nephop fans by the popular contemporary rapper “YamaBuddha” few years ago. This and many of his epic rap compositions will forever make the scene of Nepalese music lively but the rapper himself is no more living with us. It has truly been disheartening news that someone as optimistic as YB can commit suicide (no doubt the contradictory speculations on his mysterious death still persist).

Let us take a dip into the emotional turmoil that this news had put YB’s fans like me into. Let us also unfasten few shackles that our society has attached to the suicides; for which few nuances of this problem have to be dealt with.

For me, suicides bring a long history of painful memories and partially solved emotional riddles. This event has once again exposed my vulnerability in processing the news related to suicides of people with whom I feel connected to. It’s a sad story to share but in these past 5 years, 5 cases of suicides have shaken my mental well-being quite brutally. I have witnessed 3 suicides in my college hostel, another one of my student last year and this recent one which have given me the most recent shock.

This time, I have realized that the new cases of suicides themselves are not the big challenges for me. The problem that I have recognized is the way I have handled my past mental upsets. When I went through cases of recurring suicides during my college, I forced myself to accept that nothing is so queer about students’ suicides as such suicides are quite common in India. Perhaps, the patriarchal mindset that commands every man to develop masculine attributes was also equally responsible for my artificial stone-heartedness during those days.

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Moreover, when someone popular as YamaBuddha who apparently didn’t have any reason to end his life, the million dollar question arises: why would anyone want to end his/her life in such a cheap way? What could be that one big factor that pushes everyone irrespective of their fame and wealth to the dark tunnel of death? I went through few of the stats about suicides both in the context of Nepal and in the world and the data was alarming.

What I have found has put me in more dismay as Nepal stands at the 17th place for most male suicides (30.1 per 100,000) and at the 3rd place for most female suicides (20.0 per 100,000). According to another estimate of WHO, almost a million people in the world end their life each year which accounts to more than the gross loss of lives lost in the global conflicts. This bleak situation both inside Nepal and in the global arena is mostly attributed to depression which is believed to be one of the most feared killers of humans after couple of other chronic diseases. WHO also reports that 350 million people globally suffer from depression, and estimates that, by 2030, depression will be the leading cause of global burden of diseases.

In this extended article, I therefore attempt to restate few of those old facts about suicide and depression. Below are few of the symptoms of depression which can trigger suicides or at least suicidal thoughts at some point in any individual.

  • Feeling sad for two or more weeks
  • Feeling completely drained and like you have no energy left
  • Unable to concentrate
  • Sleeping too much or too little
  • Eating too much or too little
  • Feeling worthless
  • Feeling hopeless
  • Feeling helpless
  • Feeling negative or pessimistic
  • Losing interest in activities that you previously enjoyed
  • Crying frequently
  • Withdrawing or avoiding social life
  • Neglecting personal appearance
  • Feeling angry
  • Feeling guilty
  • Unable to think clearly
  • Unable to make decisions

If these symptoms (not necessarily all of them) prevail in a person for more than 2 weeks then it’s possible that s/he is going through some depressive episodes. We might be going through these circumstances ourselves or may come across with some individuals who show these symptoms. The first and best remedy that one can offer is the emotional support. Avoiding lonely places and keeping oneself busy in one or other task will also help to an extent. But the ultimate support could be sought from the mental health professionals and one should not hesitate to reach out to these support centers. Gone are those days when society associated depression with the stigmas and mental illness as incurable result of some sins. If diagnosed and intervened in time, depression is just like other minor physical ailments and everyone can win the battle against it.

In a nutshell, if we keep ourselves emotionally vigilant to take on every challenges, then we can lead the life as described in an extract from the next renown song of YamaBuddha. With this phrase, he means “to persist on and not to give up is always greater than to win”

 “जित्नुभन्दा ठुलो हिम्मत नहार्नु हो | त्यसैले लड्दै छु , संघर्ष गर्दै छु |”


Manojigyasa Episode 42

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This is the podcast of the radio program Manojigyasa which was originally broadcasted from Ujjyalo 90 Network. Manojigyasa is a program based on Psychology and Mental Health. This was originally broadcasted on September 10, 2016.

We have presented the life and work of the legend of Psychology in Nepal , Prof Dr Ayan Bahadur Shrestha. A report on the current status of suicide in Nepal and the closing program of Hatemalo Program.

Manojigyasa Episode 35

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This is the podcast of the radio program Manojigyasa which was originally broadcasted from Ujjyalo 90 Network. Manojigyasa is a program based on Psychology and Mental Health. This was originally broadcasted on July 23, 2016.
We have discussed one very essential component of counseling and daily life – Active Listening along with addressed psychological/Mental health queries. We have Clinical Psychologist Suraj Shakya, TUTH , in this special episode.

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Manojigyasa Episode 29

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This is the podcast of the radio program Manojigyasa which was originaly broadcasted from Ujjyalo 90 Network. Manojigyasa is a program based on Psychology and Mental Health. This was originally broadcasted on June 11, 2016.

We talked with Dr. Prabhakar Pokharel o the topic of depression and addressed the issues and queries sent to us by the listeners along the way

Manojigyasa Episode 8

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This is the podcast of the radio program Manojigyasa which was originaly broadcasted from Ujjyalo 90 Network. Manojigyasa is a program based on Psychology and Mental Health. This was originally broadcasted on January 9, 2016.

In this episode we have talked with Psychiatrist Ritesh Thapa on various issues regarding the mental health treatment and addressed the concerns of the people that we received in messages.